Do you know where your kids are on the faith journey?
Before you respond, take a moment and really think about that question.
I’m the mom to three boys, ages 15, 12 and 5. I was pretty confident that my boys were solid in their beliefs. They’ve been going to church since they were in diapers, went to church camp, rarely missed a service, my older two volunteer at church and they were baptized last summer. I’m raising strong Christian young men, right?
I’m not so sure.
Lately, my oldest is not enthused about going to church. He never complains, but a mom knows. He has college on his mind and it comes up in conversation at least once a week. He talks about majors, where he wants to go to school, even which DVDs he wants to pack, but he never mentions church. I’ve asked him if church will play a role in his life and I’m pretty sure he’s giving me the answers he thinks I want to hear.
College is three years away. What am I going to do? How can I get my son to a place where faith is as important to him as the air he breathes?
The bottom line is I can’t do this for him. He will have to decide if he truly believes the faith we’ve raised him with and he’ll have to decide if he’s going to make it his own or not. But I don’t want to sit back, wring my hands and hope for the best. I also don’t want to nag him. As I learned when I wanted my husband to quit smoking, nagging has the opposite effect.
I started reading “Sticky Faith: Everyday Ideas to Build Lasting Faith in Your Kids” by Dr. Kara Powell and Dr. Chap Clark. The book is a wealth of information and backed up with years of scientific research that Powell and Clark conducted among church kids as they headed off to college, what their faith life was like in college and beyond.
There’s no way I can write a manageable review of this book in one blog post so I’ve talked to Kirk, a friend and children’s pastor at my church. He’s graciously offered for me to guest post on his blog about what I’m learning through “Sticky Faith”. In addition to Kirk’s blog and mine, I’ll also be posting at our Children’s Ministry blog, Go Kids.
I’d encourage you to buy the book and join me on this conversation. Let’s talk about what we’re learning and share ideas with each other.
Are you with me?