Pinterest makes me feel bad.
It starts off as a great way to save ideas for my son’s graduation party, books I want to read, recipes to make, but quickly it becomes a place where I am reminded I am not enough.
- My house isn’t in style.
- My skin and hair are…not good.
- My Christmas decorations lack a universal theme. (I thought the theme was “Christmas” but whatever)
- My concrete patio isn’t stained (not a fashionable stain anyway. It does sport some spray paint, oil, and sidewalk chalk stains but I don’t think that counts).
- And I don’t know how to properly tie a scarf.
The list goes on and on of where I don’t measure up as a woman, a mother, a wife, and just a person in general. But Pinterest isn’t the problem. Somehow and somewhere along the road of life, I’ve gotten into my head perfectionism must be, and can be, achieved if I just tried harder. But what I really am doing is chasing the proverbial carrot, alienating those around me and just wearing myself out.
When I spotted an opportunity to read The Cure for the ‘Perfect’ Life by Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory, I jumped at the chance. Based on the cover alone, I knew this was the book I needed to read. An imperfect cupcake (or anything really) sends me into a tailspin of tears and fear of judgement.
Lipp and Gregory build a pretty solid case against “trying harder” in life and boil the problem down into four issues:
- Perfectionism-“I’m always trying harder to look good enough”
- People-Pleasing-“I’m always trying harder to seem nice enough”
- Performancism-“I’m always trying harder to be seen doing enough”
- Procrastination-“I know I’m not enough, so why try?”
The authors spend quite a bit of time covering each of the above issues and discuss how they affect and look with different personalities. I had no problem finding myself in the text and seeing how I am affected. The Cure for the ‘Perfect’ Life is a Christian-based book; the authors incorporate Scripture into their work without being preachy. Lipp and Gregory gently, but consistently, steer their readers away from the lies and burdens of perfectionism and towards where our value truly lies.
This book has truly affected me on a personal level and has me rethinking why I:
- say “yes” when I really need to say “no”
- get obsessed over having everything perfect for company
- become depressed when I make a mistake or am corrected by someone else
- and much more
This is a well-written and thought out book which would be fantastic to read on your own, in a book club or in a women’s Bible study group. However, I do not recommend purchasing the Kindle version. Lipp and Gregory have several questionnaires throughout the book which were not formatted well on my Kindle (although I was reading an Advance Readers Copy on a .pdf). Formatting issues aside, purchasing the actual paper book makes the quiz-taking process easier.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for a book review. I was not required to write a positive review.